Let’s admit it, every time we read a good romance story we try to follow some of the tricks the female lead does to make sure her crush notices her, I mean I know I’ve tried. Downfall is; I have failed miserably over and over again. So instead of stop trying, I read more romance novels and see what the other females lead in a different book is doing a bit different and maybe that will work in my situation. But no, it never does. So now that I’ve actually stopped trying, I think you should too.
And to make you open your eyes and see that what girls in books do just doesn’t work in real life, I came up with a list of things that work awesomely within the confined space of a novel, but definitely not in real life.
The first thing is going to a party in which we get drunk and declare our feelings for our crush and everything has a way of working out.
Well this doesn’t actually happen like that in real life. We might try to go to a party to where our crush will be attending or the possibility of them being there encourages us to go. Then because it’s a party we get some alcohol in our system even if we are under age. After the alcohol gives us a bit of confidence we feel like we are the kings and queens of the world and we go for it.
We get the guts to finally talk to them and maybe perhaps confess our feelings which will only have two results. Them completely ignore us and let us be in our little crazy bubble of drunkenness. Or the one thing we don’t want to happen and that embarrass us that we want the world to swallow us whole (well it feels like the end of the world), they friend zone us, or think we are weird and ignore us for the rest of our lives. Worst trick ever. It definitely doesn’t work.
Making our crush jealous is something that also works in books, but not much in real life. Taking another guy and create some sort of scene where we fake to not be interested while the guy we are actually interested on is somewhere close.
This usually doesn’t work either. For a jealousy scene to work we have to be completely certain that there is a spark, but even then it doesn’t really work. When guys are in high school and in college they are not willing to fight for a girl for too long. If they see you with someone else they probably will just let it go because there are more fish in the water and even if they have feelings for you those will definitely disappear if they see you with someone else. So, just don’t do it, that strategy only works in books and TV shows.
Also there is the makeover trick. When we read books, there is always some sort of change that it’s not only physical, but somehow also helps them with their personality and self-esteem issues.
There are certain young adult and even new adult books that dwell heavily on physical appearance. Usually the main female character describes herself as a non-attractive person and gets bullied for it. But all of a sudden the best friend or someone close to her decides it’s time to have a makeover session. This not only helps the girl with her self-esteem, which I get. Getting a makeover does help a little with how you act, but in books they make it a bit too much. The way the makeover works is that they have a complete personality change, not only are they more confident, but also they actually attract their crush’s attention. The bad thing is this doesn’t work in real life. If you do this for yourself, because you want to and not driven by the idea of a makeover will actually have an effect on how your crush sees you, then go for it. But if you do it just for that, you are doing this wrong.
I’m pretty sure there many other things we have tried, like try to get into the things they are into, be there for them when they need you and the sorts. Those things may or may not work, but those are more realistic things that we try and get us results. So if you are trying way too hard to get your crush to notice you and you have try any of the book tricks previously mentioned, chances are you are not going to get anywhere.
The most important thing you can do is be yourself. You need to be the person you have always been because you don’t want them to fall for someone you are not. Like the buzzfeed videos say, you do you. It’s the best weapon you have to get someone to notice you. If they notice you for being you, then you are on the right track to having something solid, something that might just last forever.